Passing judgment on oneself and other people is part of human nature. We can’t help criticizing another person based on what we think of them, whether we say it or not. However, it’s not right. You should always consider someone’s feelings and worth including yours. We all deserve respect despite of our imperfections. Here are a few steps to help you beat your hypercritical attitude:
Don’t Be Toxic
Sometimes we are not aware of how negative we can be. Regardless if we’re affecting others or ourselves, we can become immune to our own harsh words or behavior that we don’t see it as a big deal. When you change your mindset, you also change your actions. Understand the root cause. Maybe perfectionism drives you so you tend to control everything. Maybe a traumatic experience still has its hold on you. Once you know the reason, you can start doing what’s necessary to get rid of your toxic behavior.
Notice the Good Things
Focusing on the wrongs fuels a bad attitude. You think only unhealthy thoughts and your tongue wreaks havoc. Whenever you catch yourself doing it, remember that life can be rough. You can’t have your way all the time…even if you’re the president. Plus, we’re all flawed. That’s why you shouldn’t forget to look at what’s right and pleasant, no matter how little. Your eyes can bring light to your soul.
Stop Expecting Too Much
As previously mentioned, nothing and no one is perfect. Setting your standards too high will only disappoint you in the end. It’s like thinking that you can stay healthy despite not taking care of yourself. You and everyone else can’t live up to your impossible expectations. Appreciate effort and ability. Recognize what’s there instead of demanding for more.
Put Yourself In Others’ Shoes
Before you make unhelpful comments about someone, get inside their head. Would you be offended if you heard your exact words from their mouth? Would you feel bad about yourself if they pointed out your flaws too? Often, we allow our feelings or the heat of the moment to influence us without contemplating first. Next time you’re in a similar situation, pause, then imagine the possible consequences of your actions as you decide whether you should give in to an emotional outburst or not.
Accept, Trust, and Love More
Embracing yourself and other people may not always be easy, but it’s vital. When you take a person as they are-a flawed, unique individual like you-you’ll be able to give them space in your heart. Once you’ve done that, you can finally start giving your trust. Even if you may find it hard to put your faith in someone, you must believe that there still are those who deserve your trust. Don’t hesitate to ask for help if you can’t deal with your issues alone. Look for the right therapist or counselor and include your loved ones in your recovery journey. Overall, loving yourself and others is a surefire way to overcome a critical attitude.
Kudos to you. You are self-aware and responsible. You wouldn’t read this article otherwise. Not everyone can admit to their shortcomings, even more so, make an effort to do something about it. Change indeed doesn’t happen overnight but as long as you stay committed, you will overcome your hypercritical attitude. Go easy on yourself. Even when you fail, keep going. Let love for self and others always take control–you’ll see how much easier it is to persevere that way.
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